I came across an article by Marshall Shelley entitled Two Minutes to Eternity about the birth and death of his son Toby. While his wife Susan was pregnant the doctor diagnosed their son with problems deemed incompatible with life. They were asked what they wanted to do. "It's likely the fetus will spontaneously miscarry. If the … Continue reading Two Minutes
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IOCC Baby Kits
Jennifer Hock was the source of this idea of something to do in memory of your lost baby.The International Orthodox Christian Charities organization (IOCC) needs people to put together emergency kits including emergency baby kits. This is from their site:To assemble a Baby Kit you will need2 shirts2 gowns or sleepers2 receiving blankets6 cloth diapers2 … Continue reading IOCC Baby Kits
Ways to Help
If you have suffered a loss or are close to someone who has, it can ease the ache in your heart a little to reach out to people in similar painful circumstances. One way to do this is to contribute to organizations who put together care packages for premature babies who die shortly after birth, … Continue reading Ways to Help
Why?
The question we have all asked. The question many of us still ask. How I wish I had an answer to give. I don't.[Note: everything that follows is purely out of my own scattered head, not accepted doctrine. I am neither a theologian nor a spiritually enlightened person, so don't take this as anything beyond … Continue reading Why?
He calls them each by name.
Lift your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one, and calls them each by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing. -Isaiah 40:26 While I know that my sons don't need forgiveness for their … Continue reading He calls them each by name.
New Page
There is a new page called How to Navigate the Hospital. It talks about dealing with admissions, consents, writing a birth plan, what to take to the hospital, etc. Additional information will be added later on disposition of the baby's body.
Andrew’s Story
I updated the "Your Stories" page with the story of Andrew's loss and birth. I feel like a wrung-out sponge. (Juliana has been gracious enough to share her story of little Philip on that page as well. Thank you, Juliana)
Some Upcoming Updates
I have several things in mind to add/alter here on Lost Innocents. I'm finally coming out from under the dark shadow of Andrew's death and would like to spend some time and energy updating this site. Some of the things I have in mind:Resources for parents who are expecting a baby who is not expected … Continue reading Some Upcoming Updates
New Site about Miscarriage in Romanian
I am very pleased to announce the beginning of a new site on miscarriage in Romanian by a Romanian priest's wife, Matușkăi Euphemia : Prunci Pierduți Și Născuți Înainte De Vreme. O perspectivă Ortodoxă (Lost Babies and Born Prematurely: An Orthodox Perspective). Matușkăi Euphemia lost her son Nectarie when he was 15 weeks gestation. She … Continue reading New Site about Miscarriage in Romanian
Role of Miscarriage and Stillbirth in Seminary Education
A friend told me that after her daughter was stillborn a year ago she had trouble finding a priest to offer a memorial service for her. She wasn't living in the wilds of Montana where there are very few Orthodox churches, she was living in New York in an area stuffed with priests. The priest … Continue reading Role of Miscarriage and Stillbirth in Seminary Education